First dates are usually awkward because of all the nerves and usually you’re both still getting to know each other but I’ve been very lucky in the first-date department and have managed to steer clear of awkward silences and fake laughter.
Having said that, I’ve never been kissed on a first date. I know some girls have that as a rule ( you know, wont kiss on the first date, wont etc.) but I don’t follow these damn rules so I don’t understand how this has happened on every date I’ve been on (not that I’ve been on a bucketful of dates). It’s like a pattern: meet the guy, guy asks me out, have a good date and then no kiss, then me at home feeling a little disappointed. After my last date I had a chat with my best friend “I don’t understand why it happens EVERY single time, I must give off a don’t-kiss-me kinda vibe” and my friend just replied “of course not, people just don’t kiss on the first date”.
People don’t kiss on the first date? well that’s news to me and not news I appreciate. Whilst I appreciate guys being respectful towards me and acting like gentlemen, I guess I’m still a little insecure and being viewed as a kiss-free zone is anything but flattering.
There are certain unwritten rules and rituals that every teenager and young adult knows. Unwillingly we all obey these rules meaning we’re all playing games. What I am talking about of course is relationships.
Who makes the first move? Is it okay to text the day after you meet or is that too eager? How soon in to the relationship can you say ‘ I love you’ ? There are so many questions but in reality there is not just one answer. Every relationship works differently. None of my friends approach relationships in the same manner because we’re all different therefore it only makes sense to have different approaches towards our love life.
What I hate though is the feeling that you have to do certain things when you first meet someone new. Courtship in this day and age is far from romantic- it’s stressful. Both parties realise they’re trying to leave a good impression but in reality are just lying to each other and themselves. Isn’t it best to just be yourself? Do what you feel is right instead of what you’ve been told you should do?
I’m far from a relationship guru but I’ve seen this game played in a million different ways and I myself have done this too. At the end of the day, It’s best to be yourself, they’ll discover the real you soon enough- better sooner than later right?
Playing games is something both sexes are familiar with and guilty of. As someone who hates the concept of relationships regardless- I think that relationships should remain a game-free zone. It’s easy- two people like each other, one asks the other on a date and then they take it from there. Let’s not overcomplicate things guys 😉